How can I improve my Life?

How can I improve my Life? Every human being there has a different lifestyle. Every one tries to improve their life Style. But every one has not the proper opportunity to change it. To improve yourself you have to maintain some procedure. But before that If you want to improve your life, first you have to improve your health. Because if your health is ok, then every thing is ok. So I give you some suggestion to maintain good healthy health: - - You have to do exercise at least 10 minutes for your whole body. - Keep skin care for better looks. - Keep food in time. - For relaxation you have to play computer game etc. In the case of life, first you have to improve you personal skill, because it is the basic thing to prove yourself in any atmosphere. Yes, you have to improve your communication skill. Without communication skill you can not express yourself to another. Memorisation is another factor, because without memorisation you can't do any think in time. You have much confident to yourself. But remind that, this confident should not convert into over confident. In our daily life time is another factor. So always works in schedule time. But we know that "No one is perfect". So always think positive, do positive. Always keep in mind that "I wise I looked better so I could live my life better".

Rules of improvement

Measure yourself! I generally find it challenging to measure self improvement through external people's perceptions and I think that for us to think/feel/believe we have improved, we have to measure ourselves. Avoid the need for external indications from other people ("Do you think I've improved?") and focus on "Do I think I've improved?" With better questions, you will get better answers. The aim is to achieve personal growth.

If you want to improve your life, first you need to want it. If you do not want to experience any improvement, you will not! And it is perfectly fine, as long as you do not complain about being stuck where you are.

Fear is not improvement! If you want to improve to please someone else, you may become better at doing something, but you are going one step backwards in terms of personal development. Ask yourself from time to time, "Do I want it for me?" and "What will I get from improving this?" If you know how you will benefit from this improvement, you are already moving forward.

Be positive! Pay attention to using negative benefits, such as "I will benefit by not fighting with my kids anymore". This is based on the fear (or pain) of fighting with your kids, so you must turn it around first (see Beware of Pink Elephants for more on creating a positive focus).

Take responsibility! When looking for an improvement, focus on what you can do, instead of what others can do to improve your life. If you need others to do things, you are not in control of your own improvements and you are subject to what others do (or not). At first, taking full responsibility for your life can be scary, but after a short while, it becomes liberating.

Choose your battles! You do not need to spend your time and energy on things you are already satisfied with. For example, if you are in a good job, but you come home late, of course you can still improve things at work, but it is better to focus on your time with your spouse or your kids, where your energy will make more of a difference. Go for the 1-3 areas in your life you are least happy with.

Focus on small improvements! You do not need huge changes that everyone can notice. Changes can be very small. Luckily, personal development accumulates. It is similar to taking a long walk towards a target. Every step brings you closer to your destination. Do not underestimate any step of the way. If you know you are going on a long journey, focus on the daily actions to reach your next milestone.

Set up a reward system! If you want to keep yourself motivated, learn to reward yourself even for small improvements. Imagine you are climbing a high mountain. It is perfectly fine and rewarding to stop from time to time, look back, enjoy the view and say, "Wow, I've made it this far and I'm proud of me". It is similar to drinking water from time to time to revive and survive. You can easily pick items from your list of 100 things that make you happy as rewards for improvements. They does not have to be material things. Success in life does not have to be expensive, so these can be simple things, like taking the time to read a book or lighting scented candles (There you have it, two items from my happy list).

Measure, measure, measure! Rate yourself in various areas of your life (or against little goals you have) so you can measure your improvement from time to time. For example, if I rate my ability to encourage my kids as 78 out of 100 (told you I liked the number 100), I can ask myself, "What do I need to do to score 79 or 80 in the area of encouraging my kids?" Add these things to your list. After you have taken the steps to improve, rate yourself again. If you are doing better, cool! Reward yourself and celebrate the improvement. Then, ask the same question again, "What can I do now to bring it to 81 or 82?" and add the new items to your list.

Self esteem

i was in such a position once (apart from taking meds for depression). dont get demotivated by rejections! especially at the moment....recession is hitting the world and its generally hard to find a job! so dont take it personal and dont let it refect on your capabilities and self esteem (always keep that in mind when something comes up). Start with a list (actually write it down) of what bothers you within yourself and your situation. then look at this list and make a reference list of what you can do to change that. Make another list of your goals and how you think you can reach them (in order that these points dont get forgotten put it in a place where you always see it i.e. fridge). basically after that you have a guidance. This might take a while and you should take your time to do this. Dont get demotivated of backdraws when you follow your plan. that is normal.....keep on sticking to it. AND forget the doctors....they will never be a solution to your problems and no pill will do that either! keep your head high and always tell yourself that you can do it. like that you build your selfesteem and that will reflect on your applications and job interviews (here also keep in your head that you dont have anything to lose....you only gain something which is a job....that helped me also to be more secure in the job interviews and I wasnt nervous anymore).

How to find 100 things you can do to improve your life

1. Improve your morning routine. I added to my list getting the kids to prepare their clothes before bed time, having their lunches ready the night before and cleaning the kitchen before going to bed. At my parents' house, I hated to get up in the morning and see the sink full of dishes and crumbs on the counter.
2. List friends you want to spend more time with to get motivated in your work/relationship/hobbies/studies… I choose people who are an inspiration for me, who I can learn from and who share my values…
3. Look at your desk and add 3 things you can do to clear the clutter. Simple things that will make it easier for you to find things. For example, put labels on drawers or boxes, have a handy permanent pen to mark things, bring a stapler next to you so you do not have to get up 7 times a day for the stapler…
4. Add some ideas to improve your time management. Saving 5-10 minutes per task can add up to many more hours every week. I added to my list monitoring TV usage, using a family calendar to keep everyone aware of others' commitments, making a to-do list… If I wanted, I could add 100 items just in the time management category.
5. Make a list of 10 simple things you can say to your partner/kids/parents/friends to make them feel good and improve your relationship with them. You can start by looking at your list of 100 ways to say "I love you!".
6. Add to your list 3 things you can do about your finances that will get you to a better place on your way to financial freedom. You may need hundreds or even thousands of tips to add to your financial list eventually, but start small. 3 things you can do NOW that will position you better by making more money, saving more money or spending more wisely. I wrote on my list to buy local brands or generic products when there is no significant difference in quality, buy fruits and vegetables from the market (at a 10^th of the price of the supermarket and makes my family eat healthier) and always save for a rainy day. I have watched many people who ignored rainy days, despite being smart, educated and kindhearted, so I decided that one major improvement to my life would be to stay dry, no matter what. I rate my life higher because on most of my rainy days, I came out pretty dry.
7. Come up with ideas of what to do on the weekend to help everyone plan the shopping for the weekend, the homework the kids have and any other activities. It is an improvement to have more certainty in life. I added to the weekend list friends we can visit, trips we loved taking, movies we want to see together and festivals around town (luckily for me, there are many festivals here, which makes life much easier).
8. Think of 3 simple things that you know for sure will improve your health. Start simple, make sure you follow them for 21 days (it takes 21 ways to make a habit) and move on to the next one. I added to my list drinking plenty of water (1liter per 22kg of weight - that is the formula), going to sleep at reasonable hours (any time you sleep too little, your body will reclaim the missing sleep - big time) and meditating (it works magic for me).
9. Think of simple things that can improve your work. There are obviously many variables, but generally there are simple things we can do to make life easier at work through planning, good time management and improving social skills. I added to my list updating my diary with work time table to avoid clashes of commitments, using automatic reminders on my computer to free some memory cells and adding important dates for work colleagues and clients, like birthdays, exams, etc.
10. Go over important people in your life and ask yourself, "What can I do to help this person?" Helping others is a good way to improve your social situation and to strengthen and deepen your relationships. Giving is a great way to receive in life. I added to my list supporting my son with managing his hectic time table, helping my daughter with figuring out new procedures and registering for university, dancing with my 8-year-old daughter when she was choreographing a new dance and taking the kids in the morning to school to allow Gal to take his morning walk. Do not settle for one improvement. The more you have, the greater your overall improvement will be.

11. Think of 10 people in your life that you would like to thank for something they have done for you, intentionally or unintentionally. Just call them, send them an email or a card in the post to say "Thank you!" Saying thank you is one of those things that when you give, you receive a lot. I added to my list my older sister who helped me tough times when I was 10 and my younger sister who was my first fan and encouraged me to write. I added my aunt, who never knew how much her life story helped me when I had to face grief that seemed hard to bear. I told them this and grew instantly as a person. Just like that, in a second. Highly recommended!
12. Think of things you can learn that will help you improve your skills, attitude, and self image. Learning new things or even practicing old things you have not mastered are great to help you grow and develop. Learning is forward movement, so every learning is good (even learning from failure). I added to my list learning to touch type (you would not believe how much it improved my life when I did my journalism diploma and had to submit articles for review, instead of using two fingers to type), learning to send SMS (go ahead and laugh, but I find it so hard, it takes me forever) and learning to edit photos so they look exactly the way I want.
13. List fun things you can add to your weekly plan to bring joy and happiness into your life. Again, your happy list can help with this. I added to my list going to the movies with Gal, spending time with my eldest daughter and imagining my new stories.

Enjoy your list. I am sure if you follow the list, you will end up with great improvements.

Join me next week for the 11^th post - 100 things to tell my parents

Confidence shows something about yourself. It is the way you carry yourself in public whether you know it or not. Some people like to be around confident people. Some people don't because they find them arrogant. But arrogance comes from being overconfident. This post will only show you how to be confident and it is from there that you can choose how to control your confidence.

What is confidence? Confidence is having full trust in yourself to do an act, despite whatever fears, worries, or anxieties you have. Low self-esteem people usually have low confidence, as they shy away from the spotlight and do whatever it takes to subtly escape the task under pressure. High self-esteem people usually prefer to be in the spotlight and enjoy doing the task as they might find it exciting or a challenge.

The point is confidence is important whether or not you're in a social atmosphere and can give you high rewards when faced in a difficult situation.

-Making new friends for the first time
-Asking somebody out on a date
-Holding a conversation with a higher authority person
-Expressing an opinion in a group
-Going through a job interview
-Performing on stage
-Giving a speech
-Simply going through life's daily tasks

We all know what it feels to have a lack of confidence: we become nervous, we become sweaty, our palms get clammy, the excuses start to come in, and we end up back in that original state feeling like we just can't break out of that barrier. So let's break out of that barrier. These following steps will help you improve your confidence.

Accept Your Flaws First

First, you must accept your flaws. Why is this? People with low self-esteem usually will have low confidence. This means that they do think they are a worthy enough person to perform tasks around other people. They rely on others or look for other's permission before doing an act. Realize that everyone has flaws and no one is perfect!

It doesn't matter if you have a mentality that you will always mess things up, you have had a bad history, you get embarrassed easily, or you find a part of yourself physically unattractive, everybody has flaws and insecurities just like you and the difference between confident people and unconfident people is that confident people have learned to accept their flaws and like themselves for who they are. You must start from the inside first before you work your way to other people, and it begins with accepting your flaws as it is.

Not Caring About What Other People Think

Confidence comes from not letting other people's thoughts or opinions put you down or stop you from performing. It comes from not caring about what other people. It comes from indifference. People's opinions or criticism to you isn't a big deal to you. It's not like your being rude or selfish, which is not the intention, but you don't let people stop you from doing what you want to do. This is a very important step because if you always worry about what other people think, then you start to let them think for you. Their thinking should not influence your actions, as you're thoughts are just as capable as anyone's else's.

Believing in Yourself

You must adopt an I-can-do-it attitude! You believe in yourself to do anything you want to do. It is yourself and nobody else that you need to carry out the action. You always say to yourself, "I believe in myself and I can do this, even when others don't believe in me." When you constantly make these affirmations to yourself over and over again, you'll start to create faith in yourself to carry out what it is that you fear, worry, or are anxious about. You must combine this faith with belief, the belief in yourself and only yourself to do what needs to be done. You can do it!

Always Practice Being Proactive

You are responsible for the events that happen in your life. They do not unravel or unfold themselves in front of you the way you like it. This means that in order to be confident, you must practice being proactive in life. Proactive people take the initiative. They don't wait for things to happen. They are not passive nor are they reactive. The make things happen on their own and take charge, instead of sitting around all day and whining about wishing to be more of what already are. They can be more but it means taking a proactive approach wherever one goes.

You can constantly practice being proactive in your everyday encounters with people. Be the first one to start conversation, invite a friend to lunch, express an opinion, get work done, whatever it takes to practice this art rather than stay in a passive, thinking mode.

These are the four things that make up a confident person. Don't start doing the last step before you do the first one. Start from accepting yourself first which can be simply reminding yourself that your flaws are "okay" and that it's time to move on to focus the energy on something else. Consistently do this, or do things that make you happy and feel good and you'll realize that your insecurities are small matters. They shouldn't be holding down your confidence, and also shouldn't the reasons stopping you from the things you want really to do in life.

When you have accepted yourself, then you can gradually work your way up to the three other things mentioned such as not caring so much about what other people think, believing in yourself, and always take a proactive approach wherever you go and whatever situation you happen to be in. By constantly practicing this, you'll start to have better body language, you'll start to feel better about yourself, and you'll be able to do the carry out the things that you have wanted to do that you couldn't in the past. But most importantly, you'll have improved your confidence and be a more confident person not only around other people, but in yourself.